First-Time Parents Guide: Disruptive Behaviors, What Can I Do to Help My Kid?

It’s commonly normal for kids to present bad behaviors such as tantrums, being defiant, not listening, among others. Normally, as parents, you must be very aware to discipline them and teach the correct way to behave.

However, when these begin to occur more continuously at home, school, or elsewhere, children exhibit disruptive behavior where discipline is difficult to find because the routine and daily life are disturbed. So, in today’s article Autism Soccer will explain what exactly means this topic.

Getting to know the disruptive behaviors

This condition will present a constant pattern of anger, defiance, backtalk, troubling managing and regulating emotions, and even the worst behaviors can show kids being hostile or aggressive with their peers, older kids, parents, and relatives. Sometimes it can look like a normal bad episode, the one that every parent has to deal with, but in reality, the disruptive behaviors are more intense, dangerous and difficult to control or discipline.

These will affect their social circle and how they interact with other figures as teachers, neighbors, and relatives. School and extracurricular activities are also affected because these terrible episodes can be present.

There are two commons types of the disruptive behaviors: oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) and conduct disorder.

Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD)

This type is less stronger than the conduct disorder; however, can present some struggles within the child. Paying attention to the symptoms is important; they can be:

  • Show tantrums and anger more regular than other kids.
  • Constantly arguing with the adults around.
  • Hard to follow orders or comply request from parents and teachers.
  • Used to blame others for their mistakes.
  • Like to annoy other children.
  • Often seek revenge of people that treat them bad.

Conduct disorder

This condition is very dangerous because involves violent and aggressive episodes. It can be diagnosed as ODD in kids very young, but later after they show their personalities, the aggression appeared. Children with this disorder can ignore and abuse others physically and emotionally, with total knowledge about what they are doing. Among the symptoms are:

  • Strong bullying toward others that can escalate to aggression.
  • Refuse to limits and boundaries, like to go to school or daily routines.
  • Abusing animals and younger kids in the neighborhood.
  • Experts in lying, stealing and vandalizing.
  • Abuse on certain substances is common.
  • Engage in physical fights with older kids.

Many parents tend to confuse a rebel teenage with an individual that is suffering from disruptive behaviors, which need expert treatment. Talking constantly with teachers, friends and know their responses will be important to seek correct help from professionals. Know that you as parents are not alone, many people are just like you, trying to know how to help their children to control these bad behaviors.

Experts are the best way to start the corrects treatments, but your work at home is equally important: never think less of your duties. Remember, disruptive behaviors can be conditions that can produce violent episodes, so never minimize the seriousness of them, they are not a common rebellious attitude: the health of your kids and people around them can be in danger.

How can you help your son or daughter with disruptive behavior at home?

Discipline with positive attitude

This condition shows different attitudes, but it doesn’t mean that kids can’t present good ones. When that happens, reward them while you praise them and show affection. For example, let them eat their favorite food or take them to a place they want to visit, try not to provide material things because they can trick you into a loop which can be difficult to break.

Punishment after the misbehavior

Never wait for the next day to punish them for a mistake. Making kids understand where and why is the mistake will be important for them to be responsible adults. Whatever the punishment, it must come right there, that way children will completely comprehend what is bad, and how to improve.

Minor behaviors

Every child makes different little mistakes, like spilling juice or water because they are not paying enough attention. Children with disruptive behaviors can present the same mistakes, but for them is more important the correction and what they can learn from it, cleaning or correct their own errors can be of great help for them. So explain to them what is wrong and how to find a solution.

These small but important steps can be perfect for your kids with disruptive behaviors because you’re dealing with the problem even with all the fears that this condition may present. Always trust the pediatrician and therapist in what to do at home and school for them to improve day after day.

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Types of autism spectrum disorders

Autism spectrum disorders can affect the communication process, social interactions, and present behavioral challenges. The symptoms can be recognized during the children’s early years, for that reason, parents must be very attentive to their behavior. However, several of these disorders appear for genetic causes, hence why doctors recommend that every kid should be genetically tested for any condition.

Since 2013, with the new edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (fifth version), “autism spectrum disorders” is the terminology used to refer children with this diagnosis. The four previous denominations within the spectrum; autistic disorder, Asperger’s disorder, childhood disintegrative disorder, or pervasive developmental disorder, are now all considered different manifestations of autism. Doctors use DSM-5 to unify their criteria and tests for a correct diagnosis of ASD, and thus have a better understatement of the various symptoms that present themselves in the children.

DSM-5 has three functional levels according to the support that children will need while growing up. These levels reflect how people within the spectrum can communicate, have social interactions, react to new situations, and manage daily life. But, even while the classification system is perfectly defined, it’s not always easy for doctors to fully evaluate a patient with symptoms of ASD and assign them to a specific level, especially because they can change levels while growing up and learning new skills.

Levels of ASD

The autism spectrum disorder can be so broad, that in it, there are individuals with severe intellectual and motor disabilities and others that have above average IQ; and while some people struggle with communication, others are public figures. That is the main reason behind the creation of the DSM-5’s three levels of ASD, which are:

Level 1

“Require support”: children and adults within this level have problems with communication and social interactions; usually people previously diagnosed with Asperger’s are here. This kind of people find it difficult to maintain conversations for long periods, and sometimes it’s hard for them to make friends. Routines are essential for them; even a small change can produce an adverse reaction. Therapy is a great way to help them develop social skills and control their anxiety.

Level 2

“Substantial support”: children and adults classified within this level of ASD have even more trouble with social interactions; some of them are non-verbal, don’t fully comprehend social cues, and their understanding of body language is practically non-existent. Casual observers can notice the difference between them and the neurotypical people. Both children and adults alike will need more specific types of therapy, such as sensory and occupational therapies, to engage in their surroundings.

Level 3

“Very substantial support”: children and adults placed in this level will require more attention by doctors and family because they have a severe lack of social skills and present repetitive and restrictive conducts that affect their lives and people around them. They really can’t tolerate any changes in their environments and have very few interests. Treatment can be challenging: therapy has to be more regular and cover a wide range of requirements, and they will also need a permanent caregiver to be in charge of them. Sometimes medication can help them to be calm and focused, but it must be administered at a doctor’s discretion.

This is a condition that can affect people in different ways, but that doesn’t mean they’re destined to have an unpleasant or dull life; on the contrary, most people within the spectrum try to enjoy their lives to the fullest while struggling with their daily challenges. These conditions don’t distinguish between races, gender, nationalities, and social status, anyone can be diagnosed with ASD.

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Children’s Books about the Autism Spectrum Disorder

Children with autism can learn the different aspects of their diagnosis with a single book. They can also feel related to the characters that appear in the story since there is nothing more appealing than an individual facing the same challenge as you. These kinds of books can be a helpful guide for every person that knows someone within the spectrum, and they can give small tips for daily interactions.

Because 1 in 68 children will be diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder, it’s very common to meet someone within the spectrum (it could even be your new neighbor). So these books can give a better understatement of their struggles, and it doesn’t matter the age: preschoolers or teens can read these.

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All My Stripes by Shaina Rudolph and Danielle Royer (Ages: 4-8)

Zane is the main character of the book, a zebra with autism that is worried because his differences can make him stand out. But his mother helps him learn that autism is just one of his many qualities that make him unique. The book also contents a foreword by Alison Singer, President of the Autism Science Foundation.

The Autism Acceptance Book: Being a Friend to Someone with Autism by Ellen Sabin (Ages: 6-13)

This is an activity book ideal for classrooms and other group settings. It is an educational tool and a great way to engage a conversation between students to learn how to embrace people’s differences and to treat them with kindness. The activities help them know how a child with autism can feel and how they can react.

Ethan’s Story; My Life with Autism by Ethan Rice (Ages: 6-9)

This is a special book because it was written by a kid with autism, something very surprising since he was only seven and his single thought was to help his classmates to understand him and what is like living with autism. Here Ethan explains his challenges and struggles using his way, and how he is always grateful.

My Brother Charlie by Holly Robinson Peete and Ryan Elizabeth Peete (Ages: 7-10)

“Charlie has autism. His brain works in a special way. It’s harder for him to make friends. Or show his true feelings. Or stay safe.” This is one of the amazing lines that the book gives us. Holly is an actress and autism spokesperson whose son Charlie was diagnosed with ASD and, for that reason, this book was created along with her daughter. Ryan shows us what is like to be a big sibling for children with autism, and how proud she is that her brother knows all the American presidents and can play the piano.

Different Like Me: My Book of Autism Heroes by Jennifer Elder (Ages: 8-12)

An eight-year-old boy named Quinn is the main character here, and he takes us to meet his autism heroes: inspirational people that excelled in different fields like math, science, physics, literature, and even philosophy. These heroes are well known historical figures, and it has been rumored for years that they could be within the spectrum because of their behavior. Different Like Me is fully illustrated and can be a great educational tool.

These books can show you that your child is not alone: there are many people with the same challenges and struggles as your family, and also important historical figures lived with ASD. Reading to your child can be a great activity and a way to form bonds, so start the reading time at home! Come to Autism Soccer and check our different programs for your children.

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Reading is a fantastic gift for kids, but for children with autism, it can mean a new understanding of their condition.
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Fun Indoor Activities for Children with Autism

Some days, whether by weather or simply to sleep in, families want to stay home. But when you are raising a son or daughter with ASD, these days can be a little challenging for you and for them as well. If you want to entertain them without using any tech device, these activities can be a good starting point. Because as most children, your neurotypical child will enjoy the kind of activity that can activate their senses. Besides, these are a great outlet for them and can function as therapy as well.

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Craft day

You can dedicate an indoor day to only play with craft, there would be some people that will feel uncomfortable with the texture, but some of them can be very addictive.

  • Cornstarch science: this is the easier to make, just mix a cup of cornstarch and water until you get a dough, that can become in a soft dough that can adapt to every form that your kid want. If you add food coloring that would increase the child attention.
  • Sensory bottles: find a water bottle, it can be any, but a large will work perfectly, fill three parts of it with warm water and then add an entire bottle of clear glue, that way everything that you put inside the bottle will float instead of sink. The glue will also give a viscous texture, that can be more attractive for the child if you add glitter or food coloring, superglue the top and ready for fun games.

Indoor Olympics

This is a great activity if your child loves sports or practices one. Create different stations around the house (you can decide how many); each one will represent an Olympic event. For discus throw, find a discus and a basket (can be the one used for laundry) and make your child throw it. For each section, you can make a DIY set of medals, and even roleplay the medals ceremony. All the family can participate and have a great time together.

Board games

These games can be tricky because kids tend to be competitive when playing and this kind of games can last a good amount of time; they probably will get bored. The best option is to set your own rules! All the family can gather before the start, and discuss the new rules; there won’t be limits with them, even the loser can be the winner. The goal of this activity is to have fun and enjoy the family time.

Charades

When kids are at home, it is normal to turn on the TV, but sometimes you as parents will feel that this passive activity is wrong. So, after the child’s favorite show finishes, make a game about it. Write down different scenes of the episodes and gather them in a bowl, your son or daughter will pick one, and with the family or only you and their stuffed animals, see them act the scene out for you to guess it.

Hide and seek

Hide their favorite things or toys around the house, try not to hide them too easily, then give them clues for him or her to search for the treasures. The rewards can be simple, like cookies or his favorite dessert, but the important part is to improve their observation skills and how to follow commands.

As you can see, there are many activities that you can make when you want to spend time at home, and these can help you to develop several skills and create strong bonds in the family. Here at Autism Soccer, we just want the best for children. Visit us and check all the programs that we offer.

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Advice for Parents of Children with Special Needs

Being a parent is difficult, being one of a child with special needs is twice as difficult. These recommendations will help you to face every day with your best effort. Because you are not alone, there are many parents like you that love their kids but know how difficult it is. Keep reading and try to practice these, that way you will be a great time while parenting your kid with special needs.

You are not alone

There are many parents, that as you are dealing and trying to live as best they can. Yes maybe your kid’s diagnosis isn’t like others, but these parents know the difficulties, the struggles, the fears and the hope that their son or daughter can be happy because your kids’ happiness will be the most important thing for you. Find a group of parents that will understand you and will tell you their experiences, for you to make notes.

Let others take care of you

You are constantly taking care of your child safety and health, but what about yours? You also will need time for yourselves, take a break, ask a relative or friends that know and fully understand the kid diagnosis and can help for a couple of hours, let them feed you, too. They can even help with the house chores, but let them help you, trying to to do everything by yourselves won’t let to health problems.

You aren’t perfect, but you’re your child’s superheroes

Yes, we are humans and as one we make mistakes, try not to punish yourselves for them, even the first timers of non ASD children make mistakes, so take a deep breath, and let it go! Because in front of your kid you are superheroes, you are the ones that make their dreams come true, that help them with everything, and you always are going to be there for them. You are doctors, nurses, therapists, teachers, and parents, so you are not regular.

Time for your kids

With busy schedules for your kid’s condition, you are not spending quality time with them, so it would be good to make time for simple but important things like reading for them, plan a picnic, play with them, whatever it makes them happy. Just be with them outside busy schedules and hospital appointments.

Making heart-wrenching decisions

Because of your child’s diagnosis, you will face a lot of tough choices, but the best way to make them it’s kept to one and never rethink it. Also, it will be good to speak about it with other parents, there won’t be anybody that will understand you better than them. We know that it won’t be easy but try it to do it this way, or make your own way, parenting is a long learning journey.

Forgive yourselves

In this long journey you will make mistakes, bad decisions and will face tough situations, but forgive yourselves everytime that you are wrong, everytime that you feel that you made a terrible mistake, and everytime that you think you can’t do it anymore. Forgive yourselves and always ask for help.

Don’t lose your identity

Being a parent of a kid with special needs doesn’t mean you have a new identity. Many things are going to change, but your true self should never change. Show your son or daughter who you are with everything that comes with you. Find things for you, like a hobby, or try to keep your old friends around, go out with them and speak of things outside parenting or family.

Celebrate the small achievements of your son or daughter

Be proud and show around what your child get to know or do. They may seem small in comparison to other kids, but for you and the kids, they are huge achievements. Remember: for some of them, learning and do simple things could extremely complicated, so praised and brag about a first word, a smile, a first step, be in a team, or simply read a single line.

Don’t make comparisons

Every human is different, so try never to compare them with others. Their diagnosis could be in the same spectrum but can have different levels, or they can suffer different conditions, so never try to do that. Your child is unique, and he or she will show their strengths when the time is right.

Marriage time

If you are in a relationship, or are married, and have a kid with special needs, you will need time as a couple, make that time happen period! Your marriage, just like your child, is important to never put them behind because of your kid schedule or medical appointments, just like before asking for help, and enjoy a fancy date with your partner.

Trust your parent’s instinct

Be a parent come with wonderful gifts like instinct, so use them every time that you feel that something is off. Doctors, teachers, specialists, and therapists know their fields and professions, but if you don’t like it follow those instincts; they are usually right and you would make a good call.

Parenting is hard work, but if your child has a special need, is twice as hard. So keep in mind these tips, and be the best parent as you can. Here at Autism Soccer can give you the best advice and programs for your kids, so don’t doubt and visit us!

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