Things That a Kid with Autism Wants to Tell You

Autism spectrum disorder is not considered a psychosis, but rather a generalized developmental disorder. Kids with autism present some difficulties that make life in society a little more complex.

Deficiencies associated with the disorder generally include: language and communication difficulties, problems interacting socially, and lack of empathy. They feel more comfortable when they are part of a repetitive routine, unlike typical people who do not understand these attitudes or behaviors.

Another impediment of a kid with autism is his/her limitations with motor coordination and the processing of incoming sensory information. Each case is different. Each individual with autism is unique.

There are things that a kid with autism would like to tell you, especially if you are his/her father or mother, teacher, partner, or are related to him/her.

1. I strive to make friends

A kid with autism finds it difficult to have relationships with others, but that does not mean he/she doesn’t like having friends or making friends. However, these children face several types of social interaction deficiencies.

  • Distant: their behavior is indifferent. They act as if the other person does not exist.
  • Passive: accept social approaches but do not initiate them.
  • Active but odd: they try to establish social contact but in a particular way.
  • Formal or artificial: they do not adapt to social norms and their behavior is not the most appropriate.

Although he/she seems distant or disinterested in playing with other children, he/she simply does not know how to start a conversation or enter the game. You should teach him/her to join the game with other children and encourage them to invite him/her to the game.

The best games for children with autism are those that have a clear structure (a beginning and an end), that is, games without surprises or last-minute changes.

2. I interpret language literally

Double meanings, sarcasm, or puns are things that children with autism cannot understand. Other elements of communication, such as metaphors, allusions, or nuances, are complicated for people with this disorder because they interpret all information as it is presented. If you talk to a kid with autism this way, you will confuse him/her.

3. Sometimes I use different intonation from other people

Kids with autism sometimes use different intonation to communicate. The tone of voice can be heard mechanically and even robotic. This is common in children with autism.

4. Even if I have trouble communicating, I like to be heard

Depending on the degree of the disorder, some children with autism learn to speak late in relation to children of the same age, while others never learn to speak.

However, we should not interpret these communicative limitations with not wanting to be heard. A kid with autism will always want to be understood and heard, so we must be attentive to each of his/her signals and value their feelings despite their difficulties in developing expressive language.

5. I don’t like symbolic play

Spontaneous games without a fixed structure are not fun or enjoyable for children with autism. Games where imagination and surprises are part of the rules do not encourage those who suffer from the autistic spectrum.

Children with ASD love predictable, repetitive, and routine games, where they previously know what will happen. What can be something entertaining for neurotypical children, can be unpleasant or annoying for children with ASD.

Since now you know a little more about what children with ASD think, you can create a better environment to contribute to their development, but this is not everything. Maybe you would like to propose other ideas or share them with us? Leave us your comments.

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These kids just want to say lots of things, but they struggle with it.


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