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Volunteering for Teens With Special Needs

Volunteering can help people with autism and other conditions learn new things, interact socially, and develop skills in the workplace. But to motivate your children to be volunteers, first, you need to know their particular interests and skills.

We recommend you ask family members, friends, schools, sports clubs, or visit various websites to discover the places where they can participate.

Benefits of volunteering for teens with autism and other conditions

First of all, you need to create a Curriculum Vitae with the profile of the adolescent with ASD. It is very important to ask the employer to provide a certificate validating the volunteer work. This will allow teens to show the experience they acquired on their resume.

Volunteering can help them:

  • Prepare for the future and develop skills and abilities in certain areas.
  • Lower their vulnerability and gain knowledge to fend for themselves during adulthood.
  • Develop social skills and strengthen relationships with others. It also improves the ability to communicate for people with ASD.
  • Participate in new activities and learn what is done in different workplaces.
  • Find work that interests them.
  • Learn teamwork, respect schedules, follow rules, and build trust.
  • Improve their abilities to interact with coworkers and meet contacts that could help them find a job one day.
  • Learn the importance of tolerance and support to have a good job performance.

Volunteering also allows organizations to get acquainted with young people, know their interests, abilities, and skills so they can offer them a paid position in the future.

Appropriate volunteer work for your child with special needs

Help your children find a volunteer job based on their skills, interests, and needs. Outdoor activities, computer tasks, helping people, cooking, sharing with animals, sports, and performing numerical calculations usually attract the interest of young people.

Look for volunteering opportunities in areas such as:

  • Sports
  • The food industry
  • Programming
  • Gardening
  • Animal shelters
  • Customer Support

But make sure the place meets these basic requirements:

  • Having a good reputation and a better record of supporting volunteers with ASD and other conditions.
  • Treating everyone with respect and being accessible.

Here are some ways to find some volunteer work:

  • Ask family and friends.
  • Look out for volunteering opportunities at the local council.
  • Research on specialized websites, such as GoVolunteer, SEEK Volunteer, Conservation Volunteers, or the RSPCA (Royal Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals).
  • Ask in your child’s school if they can help you find volunteering experiences.

Take advantage of your children’s productive potential and skills to prepare them for adulthood!


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Children and Teens With Autism: Why Social Events and Parties Are Hard for Them

Socializing and going to parties help children with autism spectrum disorder improve their social and communication skills. However, most social events can be tough to handle for them. The best way to help your children progressively develop their social skills is by planning everything with time.

Reasons why holiday events can be difficult for children with ASD

  • Children with autism have problems with communication and social interaction
  • They find it difficult to wait, organize, or solve unexpected situations
  • They are easily overwhelmed by their surroundings
  • They are disturbed by noise, screams, and loud music

That said, if we apply the right strategy, parties and meetings can be a great opportunity for them to develop their communication and social skills.

Planning social events with your child within the spectrum

Taking your child with ASD to a social event is not mandatory. Do what you consider convenient and what you can both handle. Plan every detail to help your kid feel comfortable and confident.

Strategies to prepare children for the event

  • Tell them a story about a party. Focus the story on a specific theme, for example, respect for turns, or how to behave when someone wins a game
  • Exchange roles with your child. For example, represent a scene about how to greet others, how to get to the place, etc
  • Show them videos of parties. There are plenty of videos on YouTube showing common behaviors at social events. This is called video modeling
  • Plan the supervision of your child with your partner or ask a trusted family member to help you
  • Make an emergency plan if the child starts feeling overwhelmed. You can take him/her for a walk or accompany him to a quiet place
  • Take a “support kit” that contains all his/her favorite toys, books, and food in case of a crisis.

Development of skills to help your child with autism manage social events

Over time, children with ASD can learn many skills, such as:

  • Teamwork
  • Respecting others’ turn
  • Sharing
  • Being patient and calm
  • Accepting losing a game

These will help them enjoy the holidays and learn how to interact in all kinds of social events and even at school.

How can you help them develop these skills?

There are many ways to help children with autism improve their social skills:

  • Tell them stories about social events. This strategy will show them how to behave and what to expect at parties
  • Practice losing in different games. This way, you can teach them there is nothing wrong with losing sometimes
  • Teach them to say “good job, you win” and “congratulations”

Tips for organizing a party for children with ASD

  • Plan the event with a clear and precise structure
  • Use a decoration with something your child likes or based on his/her special interests
  • Try to avoid unstructured games
  • Avoid anything that could distress your child. For example, don’t play loud music at the party if it bothers him/her
  • Ask other family members for help if he/she gets angry or has a crisis
  • Make sure adults attending the event know what to do to help your child in case of an uncomfortable situation

Having children with ASD doesn’t necessarily mean that your social life and theirs is over. On the contrary, if you prepare the parties or reunions with enough time, these events can be very useful to improve their social skills and teach them how to appropriately relate to others.


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How to Prepare a Holiday Family Gathering for Your Teen with Autism?

Christmas Eve is a perfect occasion for the whole family to gather at a relative’s house and celebrate the holidays. Parents of a teenager within the autistic spectrum and other family members may go through difficult situations, insecurities, and concerns about his or her adaptation to these kinds of events.

But the parents of a child with autism should always be prepared to face new challenges. Christmas meetings can be tough, especially if a family member who has problems accepting your child’s condition is present.

In this post, we show all the aspects you should keep in mind, so your family reunion is pleasant for everyone.

First of all, adapt your ideas for the festivity to the characteristics, behaviors, and individual needs of your child. This way, you’ll be able to make the best decision and minimize the anxiety and preoccupation of everyone involved.

Prepare for the reunion

The important thing is to prepare in advance for that family gathering, but how to do so? Here’s a couple of tips:

Use family stories

Teens within the spectrum aren’t fans of changes or surprises, they are routine lovers. Tell them a family story and explain in detail how Christmas gatherings usually go. Show them photos from previous years where they can see all the family members.

Strengthen their coping skills

Teach your children to be patient and wait for their turn to speak and participate, respect others, and anything that can be useful for learning self-management.

Help them avoid a sensory overload

Generally, everyone dresses formally for a family reunion, and this can cause discomfort in teenagers with autism. It is better to dress in casual and comfortable clothes that don’t cause too much visual impact on them.

Loud music can also trigger a desire to leave the place. Take some earphones with you and let them listen to their favorite music. The same can apply to food if they don’t like the dishes. In this case, try to cook or gently ask the host if he can make their favorites.

Teach them how to behave during dinner

Evaluate your children’s behavior and try to determine if they are truly ready to share dinner with other people. If not, accompany them and eat in a separate place of the house while the rest of the family is in the dining room.

Prepare the whole family

Expose to your family your child’s growth, progress, and achievements, in addition to those issues that may need to put some attention on. Promote communication between them through phone calls, emails, and social media.

Locate a space inside the house where your child can take a break and have a quiet moment under your supervision. Talk to the host about available spaces. If there is none, you can go for a walk to try and calm your child down.

There are also people within your family who can provide support. Contact them before the family reunion, tell them how to help you in case your teen has a crisis.

But sometimes things don’t go es expected. If the situation gets out of control, it is better to engineer an elegant exit plan.



Holidays are the perfect time to gather as a family, but the crowd and the noises can be a lot for your teen with autism.



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Regalos de Navidad para niños con autismo

Seguramente para estas fechas ya tengas planeado ir a comprar el regalo de Navidad para tu niño con autismo, pero puede que al momento de adquirirlo se te presenten algunas dudas sobre cuál pueda ser el obsequio ideal para él.

Recuerda que sólo tú conoces al pequeño y sabes lo que le gusta y lo que no. Analiza todos estos elementos y procede a elegir el mejor regalo de acuerdo a sus preferencias. Examina cómo se comporta tu niño y cuáles son sus sensibilidades, de esta forma podrás elegir el presente más idóneo para la Navidad.

Peluches y juegos propioceptivos

Si tu niño es de los que les encanta las guerras de almohadas, dormir y saltar entre grandes cojines o le gusta cargar objetos pesados de un lugar a otro, sería conveniente estimular su sentido propioceptivo. ¿De qué se trata esto? De estimular todo aquello relacionado con la sensibilidad y el sistema nervioso, es decir, la información que proviene de los músculos, articulaciones y la masa ósea.

Una manta para dormir o un peluche felposo son agradables obsequios para quienes juegan todo el año a las escondidas debajo de las sábanas y las almohadas. Los juegos para armar y construir al estilo de Lego son ideales para niños que les encantan los objetos pesados. También puedes utilizar  tacos de madera de diferentes colores.

A los niños les encanta construir torres enormes con varios peldaños para luego derribarlas y observar de cerca el efecto dominó. Después de la Navidad estos juguetes pueden ser utilizados como recursos pedagógicos y lúdicos para la enseñanza de los colores y los números. Este tipo de estrategia está dirigida especialmente a niños de un año.

Juegos para desarrollar las habilidades sociales

Los niños con autismo tienen dificultades para entender el lenguaje corporal de las demás personas. Incluso las expresiones faciales son a veces difíciles de interpretar. Por eso es recomendable enseñarles que fruncir el ceño significa que estamos enfadados, dudosos o sorprendidos.

Si tu niño presenta esta debilidad especial, hay juegos que sirven para abordar esta temática, como los Emotiblocks, por ejemplo, que ayudan con las habilidades sociales y las emociones. En cada bloque hay una carita que reproduce y expresa un tipo de  sentimiento o emoción.

También se pueden utilizar como una eficaz estrategia de aprendizaje los dibujos del juego “Pupitre magnético de las emociones”. Por medio de este se pueden conocer los tipos de emociones y sentimientos de las personas.

 Juegos para autorregularse

Los comportamientos de autorregulación como morder, correr, tocar objetos, masticar, balancearse y girar, entre otros, son fundamentales para niños y niñas. Para contribuir a este equilibrio puedes regalarle un accesorio para morder.

Si al niño le gusta el balanceo corporal puedes seleccionar juguetes que estimulen el sentido vestibular, como las hamacas o peonzas. Balancearse surte un efecto relajante en el niño y calma sus niveles de hiperactividad y agitación. Si el pequeño sufre hipersensibilidad auditiva podrías sorprenderlo con un casco antiruido para prevenir incomodidades al encontrarse en un ambiente ruidoso.


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Los chicos con autismo son muy sensibles y algunos obsequios pueden causarles molestias. Te enseñamos cuáles son los mejores regalos para ellos.



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Teens with Autism: Self-Esteem and Self-Identity

Adolescence is a decisive stage full of turbulent moments due to the physical and psychological changes young people experience. For this reason, the development of self-esteem and self-identity is extremely important for achieving greater confidence and feeling comfortable in this modern society.

Being different is what makes us special

Explain to your children in a casual conversation that all people are different, and that is what makes each of us unique and unrepeatable. Every human being is valuable and interesting for their peculiarities.

Help them see themselves as a valued and active part of society. You can also help them understand that people around can see, talk, think, and act in many ways.

Tell them that people are free to think and act differently, and we must accept it.

Kids within the autism spectrum may feel different from others at school because, in many cases, their classmates make them feel that way. Tell your child that no one in the world is completely equal to another and that he or she should not pay attention to others’ mean comments.

Getting to know others

Allow your children to join activities that they like, such as a sports club, a painting group, or a band. This will allow them to realize each of their strengths, discover what they like to do, and find a place where they feel safe.

This way, they will develop social skills by sharing with others who aren’t within the spectrum. In turn, it will be a great practice to start interacting with all kinds of people.

But promote activities in which they can share with other children with autism as well. Getting involved with people within the spectrum can help them understand more about their condition and the different ways in which it can affect people.

Sharing experiences with an audience that understands their situation is also helpful. The State Autism Association and the local council may recommend some local groups. These agencies are responsible for providing information on the places where children can meet others of the same age and condition.

Thinking about me

Encourage your children to explore their interests and discover what they love and what they don’t. Talk about the positive aspects of their personalities, for example, their good manners, generosity, solidarity, tolerance, among others. Also, ask them how they would describe themselves.

An effective strategy for kids to express what they think about themselves is teaching them how to write a journal. You could call it “All about me” and include photos of all the activities your children like and entries about their achievements.

Teens within the autism spectrum remember past events better through images, photos, and other documents. For example, school reports can help them remember their triumphs at school.

Knowing about the family

To help your children develop their self-identity, you should show them photographs of family members, build a family tree, and explain to them where their last names come. Tell them how the experience of watching them grow up to become teenagers has been for you.

If your children don’t have the support of their friends or classmates, let them know that their family will always be there for them, no matter the circumstances.


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Boys with Autism: Take Care of Your Body!

Puberty brings many physical and psychological changes that are difficult to handle, especially for teens with autism. Our responsibility as parents is to teach our children how to take care of their bodies during this stage. Here we show you the best way to educate your child with autism in all aspects related to the care and hygiene of the body.

The first thing you have to explain to an adolescent within the spectrum is why he needs to take care of his body. It is important to use a simple language according to his age and level of autism, so he can understand the changes he will experience as he grows and develops.

Let him know that as we age, our bodies change until we become adults. This transition from boy to man is what we call puberty. When it arrives, it will bring changes like:

  • Oily skin and hair.
  • Facial hair growth (beard).
  • Sweat will have a stronger and more penetrating smell, especially in the area under the arms.
  • The voice becomes deeper.
  • Frequent erections, ejaculation, and wet dreams.

This process is biological and natural. It happens to all men when they grow up. The changes are presented progressively, so you must help your child change his routines to stay clean and healthy.

A routine to stay clean

Talk to your child with autism about the daily routine he needs to follow to stay clean. Teach him that he should:

  • Wear clean underwear.
  • Wash his hands daily with soap and water, especially before and after eating or after using the bathroom.
  • Use a clean, dry towel after taking a bath.
  • Take a bath twice a day.
  • Make a greater effort to clean his genitals and armpits as they are the most sweaty areas and can produce a bad smell.
  • Brush his teeth twice a day and floss to prevent tooth decay and bad breath.

What about shaving?

In adolescence, facial hair begins to show.  For children with autism, it can be uncomfortable and they may try to remove it from their faces. Your son should not shave on his own. Guide him through the whole process and tell him that he should always ask an adult for help, at least until he learns how to do it safely.

Underwear, why wear it?

We recommend that you explain to your boy why it is convenient to wear underwear. This intimate garment should be comfortable, easy for him to put on and remove, and make him feel safe when walking, running or jumping.

Mention that there are different types of underwear and he can choose the one he likes best and suits his needs.

How can he remember this much information?

At first, changing his daily routine can be hard work, but over time, your child will end up getting used to it. He will eventually understand that these new habits will help him prevent diseases, the appearance of infections, and keep him clean and fresh.

Remind him how the routine should go every day. For this, you can use these strategies:

  • Make a schedule about the times he is supposed to wash his face, shave, or take a bath.
  • Use images to remind him of the steps he needs to take every morning.
  • Put numbers on daily items, such as shampoo and deodorant, to let him know which one he should apply first.
  • Prepare special kits with the supplies he needs. For example, the first kit should have soap, a toothbrush, toothpaste, mouthwash, deodorant, and a hairbrush.
  • Choose the supplies he likes to use for their smell, texture, or pleasant sensations they produce. In stores, there are many different brands and smells. Encourage him to choose the one likes the most.
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How to Enjoy Thanksgiving with Your Child with Autism

Thanksgiving Day lets us know the Christmas season is near and along with it, many new experiences for your child. Each special date may bring us joy and some moments of concern for our family.

But there’s no need to worry. The key is choosing carefully the activities in which they will participate. Here are some tips on how to make Thanksgiving a pleasant, enjoyable, and bonding experience for all, especially for your child within the spectrum.

Attend the event early

In case you’re not the host, arriving early to the event will allow your child to adapt faster and easier to the environment. During that time, you can explore the place so you can get familiarized with it. This will make you feel both more calm and confident.

The idea is that your son or daughter feels comfortable in this new space. It is also important that you visualize a quiet place where your child can stay in if he or she starts feeling overwhelmed.

Bring your food if necessary

If your child has problems with certain foods or doesn’t like some textures, carry an additional meal according to his or her taste. You could also tell the host what your child prefers to eat in advance.

Eating what he or she likes will help them cope with any stressful situation they might go through.

Create your own traditions

List all your child’s needs and try to adjust your family traditions according to the things that make him or her feel comfortable. On Thanksgiving, for example, everyone may sit at the table in casual clothes or pajamas so everyone can feel more relaxed.

Remind your child about the good experiences of previous years using photos or videos of the activities you did together. These special memories will help them feel better during this celebration.

Talk to your family about the occasion

Let your family know about your kid’s taste and preferences, so they have them in mind during both the initial activities and the celebration.

For example, if your child likes to play Minecraft, someone that likes it too can play with him or her. From there, they may discover other things they have in common. These details are important for developing social skills.

Teach and encourage positive behaviors

Explain to your child how to behave during Thanksgiving and the rules your family follows on this special day. Walk him or her through the whole process: everyone sits at the table, greet each other with a smile or a hug, and then start to eat.

Try to rehearse the event if possible. This way, your child will know how to act, and you can identify which situations could be particularly stressful. Also, you need to reinforce their good behavior.




Thanksgiving can be difficult for them, but wit these tips it can be a great time with family.

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Teens with Autism: How Can They Notice When Someone Is Being Nice?

Teens with autism can’t always know whether people are being nice, mean or if they are trying to bully them. This is why they must receive the necessary guidance to avoid unpleasant situations with those they meet.

In addition to this, they should also be taught how to recognize when someone is being friendly, and how to reciprocate those actions. When making new friends, you should choose a person willing to be kind.

How to know if someone wants to be your friend?

When people want to be nice, they usually smile and look you in the eye. They may use some phrases to let you know that they enjoy your company.

Phrases such as: “I like going out with you” and “I like talking to you” indicate that they feel comfortable around you. If someone likes spending time with you, they will answer affirmatively when you ask them to do something together. But sometimes they may tell you no if they are busy, not feeling well, or they are simply not willing to go out.

In this case, you could wait for a better time to ask them again to do any activity, either after school or on any other day. If the person doesn’t want to be your friend or hang out with you, it is better not to insist.

How can I know when someone is being mean?

There are kind and mean people everywhere. In time, we can learn to recognize them and know with whom it is better to interact. If you notice any of these signs: they interrupt you when you speak, they don’t include you in their activities, use nicknames to refer to you, or hurt you physically, walk away from them.

On the other hand, if someone laughs when you are close by, they can either be laughing with you or at you. If they laugh at you, they are not being friendly.

How can you tell the difference? People will laugh with you when something funny happens or if you make a joke. On the contrary, if someone laughs at you, it is because they are making fun of the way you look or talk. Mocking other people is never kind or friendly.

What should I do about it?

If someone behaves badly, walk away from him/her immediately. If they try to make fun of you on social media or send you text messages you don’t like, simply don’t respond to any of his/her comments.

Contact an adult you trust and tell them about the incident. It can be a family member, a teacher, or a friend.  They will help you decide what to do in these situations. Most of the time, it is best to ignore the people that are trying to mock you and find someone else to start a friendship.

Don’t forget that you are a valuable human being who deserves respect, consideration, and kind treatment. Those who don’t treat you kindly do not deserve your company.




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Tips for Grandparents of a Child Within the Spectrum

The arrival of a child with autism at home involves many changes that affect all members of the family. This includes, of course, grandparents, who may find it difficult to interact with them. If you have grandchildren with autism, you might be interested in our advice on how to understand and relate better to them. These are five tips:

1. Expect the unexpected

A crisis can occur at any time, so we must be prepared. Children with autism are very sensitive, and any alteration in their environment might cause tears and screams.

Although this is a common behavior in children, you should anticipate these situations by planning some words and actions that may calm them down.

The first thing you need to do is move your grandchild away from any stressful place. Then, you could make some jokes and act as if you were in a fun game. Humor is always a good way to release tension.

2. Change what you can and let the rest go

To maintain a good relationship with both your grandchildren and their parents, and have a good time with them, it is advisable to share your opinion on parenting very carefully.

Focus on everything you can do while you’re spending time with them. It’s all about enjoying these moments, contributing and supporting their parents as much as possible. Change and transform what is within your reach, and do not stress over the things you can’t change. Just let go.

3. Savor the moments and create memories

Children with autism have difficulty developing empathy and interacting with others. They may not stand out for their affection, but there are strategies, such as games, that will help develop a closer relationship.

Try to get involved in their activities. Play their games, laugh with them, and pay attention to their tricks from the side of the pool. Little by little, you’ll start to notice these special moments in which your grandchild will show you their love. Enjoy every hug, kiss, smile, and appreciate all the memories.

But remember that, sometimes, they may have a bad day or be in a bad mood. Let the happy days compensate for the bad ones, and keep in mind that your grandchild is a very sweet being.

4. Learn to love their peculiarities, work with them and use them in your favor

All children within the spectrum are unique and have their own peculiarities. Some develop a strong interest in certain topics. Use this as a powerful tool to develop a closer bond with them.

Try to learn about those topics so you can have a good conversation with them. For example, if your grandchild loves dinosaurs, tell them a story about it. This could help you teach them new things and calm them down whenever they go through a crisis.

Going out can also help you get closer to your grandchild. Take them to the movies, plan a trip to a theme park, a museum, or any place where they can learn more about what they like.

5. Let them rely on you and be available

Grandparents are essential in the lives of both children with autism and their parents, especially to help them release stress. Living or spending enough time with the children gives a perspective on the situation, the parents have to go through.

You can contribute with your wisdom and experience. Be present at home so you can offer your guidance and support. It is important that they feel your unwavering trust and love.


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How to Strengthen the Relationship between a Child Within the Spectrum and His/Her Siblings?

Having a child with ASD causes a great impact on the family and, at the same time, becomes a challenge for the child’s parents and even siblings.

This condition affects a child in his/her way of conceiving the world which is different from others, to the parents who assume the additional commitment of raising a child who needs more attention and also to the siblings who make an effort to interact with their brother/sister with autism.

The relationship between a neurotypical child and his/her sibling with autism can become tense. However, the guidance of parents and some changes in the way of educating children can help them share and live with each other.

Here are some tips to promote a healthy relationship between an autistic child and his/her siblings:

1. Explain autism to neurotypical siblings

Depending on the age and maturity of your son or daughter, you can explain the notions about autism, and, as they acquire a greater understanding of the subject, try to incorporate more information, making it clear that his/her brother’s/sister’s condition is not temporary. You must adopt terms that the neurotypical child can clearly understand.

2. Promote time with siblings and friends

Neurotypical children want to spend time with friends, and for them to spend a lot of time with their sibling with autism is not something fun, but forced or the fulfillment of a duty. Fundamentally, difficulties in establishing communication, common interests or affection can be factors that interfere with sibling relationships.

This can cause a fracture in the union that exists between them, because they cannot anticipate the long-term benefits of facing and overcoming the situation. For them, it can be frustrating to have to prioritize a brother/sister with autism over their classmates and friends. Therefore, it is necessary to maintain a balance and not force them into exclusive company with their autistic sibling.

Neurotypical children should, in fact, socialize with their own friends. This is even healthier and helps reduce tensions between siblings, thus providing a better environment for interaction with their sibling with autism.

3. Enhance the importance of the neurotypical child’s work

Value your neurotypical child and highlight his/her qualities. Make him/her feel that he/she is important in the family nucleus. Children love to be given attention, but not in a manipulated way. Many praise phrases can be used to motivate typical children to interact with their brother/sister with autism.

Never convince your child in a forceful way to play with his/her autistic sibling – rather, you can persuade him with these words:

  • “You are a good listener when your brother tells you about his new toys; I bet that makes you feel happy!”
  • “You are a super helper, Tom! You read that book very well with your brother.”

The goal is that the child can interact with a sibling within the spectrum and feel that his/her actions and support are appreciated by others.

4. Take the children to a play date that other children with and without autism will attend

You are probably scheduled to attend an activity with children within the spectrum in the company of your child.

This could be counterproductive because your neurotypical child may feel excluded, and may even begin to feel envious because you are expressing favoritism or preference for the autistic brother or sister. It is best to take them both to the appointment to play and prevent them from developing feelings of resentment or rivalry.

In addition, they can better understand the condition of their sibling/s by interacting with others and perceive these differences in a fun and entertaining way, which will undoubtedly strengthen their understanding of autism.

5. Share your attention

An infallible way to prevent your little one from looking at his brother or sister with feelings of envy and resentment is to try to take an interest in and pay attention to him/her. Although it is true that a child with ASD demands great attention, you should look for ways to find the time to make both children feel loved equally.

Show affection to children in an effusive way.  Hug them, kiss them, express your love for them, congratulate them. It is important to make them feel that they are valued. Choose a special day for individualized attention. For example, attend a park or pool, etc… so you can take advantage of a quality moment with your neurotypical child. This can promote strong bonds of union between siblings.



Having a kid with autism is hard, but for a sibling can be more difficult. Teach them how to strengthen their relationship.


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